Most men won’t admit this but we want to be at home with you too. You’re much different than me though, which is fine. Being raised in a very unconventional family by many standards. I watched through young eyes as my dad struggled to find work. My brother and I spent our lives between living with our paternal grandmother and our father.
While we didn’t want for very much at all as kids. I want the world in my pocket as an adult. Now at the prime age of 27, I’m very close to attaining (almost) everything that I have ever dreamed of. Except for the fact that bills need paying.
My dad worked wherever he could to make sure my brother and I were cared for. Shopping malls to fast food ( the latter I was too young to remember ). But he did what he had to do to feed us. That’s what a parent does. It’s one of the life lessons I’ve tried to live by. No matter what; always find work. Doesn’t matter if you hate it or love it. If your bills are being paid everything is secondary.
But getting back to the title. Marriage and the view from the office. I never had a good understand or basis for how much work it would take. As a child, I could never understand how much work I was. Let alone feeding, clothing, and bathing. Now, being a father of two and married, everything is so much work.
My wife is a champion. She’s strong, caring, loving and as sweet as strawberry pie. But she’s not impervious to stress and emotional damage. She’s not invincible. Which is something I took for granted for far too long.
She’s everything I never knew I wanted. My work schedule has changed in some drastic ways through our relationship. But while she’s always been there to support me, I do know she needs to have her adventures as well.
Here’s where things get complicated. We’re both adults with our own dreams and aspirations. Our children have their own ideas and want to explore the wide world around them. So from the office, things don’t look too messy. But marriage is messy. Marriage is exhausting and complicated. Trying to balance your own needs while maintaining your relationship’s status quo.
I want my wife to have the world in her pocket. I want her to gain every advantage possible. But I need her. I need my wife. She’s my support and my lifeline. My candle in the dark tunnels of adult life. She is everything I never thought I deserved. We have our differences ( of course ).
What I’m trying to say is. Since I can’t have the best of both worlds ( being the provider AND the care giver ). I’m enjoying what I have. I have a steady income and a stable home. So enjoy what you have.
Your life has brought you there, here, wherever you are for a reason. If your parents, life, family, friends, sucked or anything sucked. I’m sorry for that. But just know that life will come around for you. I met my wife in Azeroth and I have her heart in my pocket. And that just may be good enough.