I’m no Tony Robbins, but I’m here to tell you that your fears won’t literally kill you. That may seem like a harsh way to start an article but it’s true. Unless your fear happens to be something like a deadly animal or natural disaster, then maybe it will. Nonetheless, you should face your fears. I have an absurdly long list of fears if I’m being honest with you. Here’s a few:
- Overflowing toilets
- Failing as a writer
- Not being able to work
- Losing my family
- My WoW characters being deleted
While some of those seem silly, they help to make you who you are. In the long run I’m bound to face a few overflowing toilets ( I have no idea why they freak me out ). I’ll eventually stop paying Blizzard $15 a month to spend my time fighting aliens, robots, lizard people etc. But failing as a writer is something I can actively fight against. Keeping my family intact and happy is something I can proactively avoid. Keeping a steady job is something I can do easily. So, three fears faced. BOOM.
And I know what you’re thinking. October, all of my fears aren’t that easy. And I know that. Some people fear public speaking ( I have a nervous stammer so I feel you there). To that I say, start small. Hang out with some friends at your favorite place for grubbery and give a little toast to the occasion. This life is far too short to let your fears overcome you.
My wife is always amazed at how confident I seem. Trust me, it’s a learned tactic. It’s like the old saying “ Fake it till you make it. “ I had a few friends in high school and college who were terrified of talking to the opposite sex ( both male and female ). And even that is simple when you step back and look at the problem. Fear of the unknown. That’s all it boils down to.
If you want to be the best, act like it. Your fear of your neighborhood will only go away if you take charge and make a change in it. If your fear is speaking, write it. If your fear is writing, talk about it. You’ll forever be afraid of that one single thing until you face it.
Maybe no one ever told you this. Or maybe you’re reading this for me to tell you this.
I believe in you.
You can do this.
“Heroes get remembered, but legends never die.” – Babe Ruth