There comes a time in everyone’s life where we reach a turning point. Where what was once our go to way of doing something no longer seems viable. While some of us will grasp at straws or keep pushing until you break.
There are those who are willing to let the chips fall and walk away from the table. But which is best? Is there a one size fits all solution to heartache?
No, I wish there was.
Being a writer, I’m reminded of my past via written or even typed words and phrases. Echoes of my life brought full frontal for me to relive them over and over again. But it’s not all bad ( usually ). I’ve learned some priceless lessons this way.
One lesson I’ve learned is how to let go of things that have kept me aching over the years. Now that I’m edging thirty years (young) old. Letting go of the past and embracing the future is what I know I have to do. It’s not always easy to do with social media reminding me of things I can’t do anymore.
- Shutting down bars
- Pool hopping
- Going to sleep after 3 am
and my personal favorite
- Driving around aimless with a car full of friends As a married man with two kids, these activities aren’t workable.
Instead, I’m shutting down TVs and scraping Cheerios off of hardwood floors. Instead, I’m reassuring a little boy that there are no monsters outside his window. Those are shadows from the huge trees outside. Or, I’m waking up with a little girl who likes to interrupt snuggle time with the wife.
So on the topic of letting go, there are plenty of things that have gone by the wayside. Marriage and kids change a man. They change the way we do things in general. In fact. Instead of watching Fight Club or Donnie Darko until my eyes fall out.
I’m now inundated with songs about a demigod from Hawaii. But there are a couple that are catchier than I’d like to admit. I’m not the person I used to be. I’m not the man I thought I would be if we’re being honest. I’ve let go wanting to change the world. I’m focusing on making sure my little ones have a chance to do it instead. I don’t focus on what I can’t do, I make lists of things I want to do when they grow up.
I’ve stopped searching for that perfect woman who fulfills my every wish and desire. Because I’ve found her. So on the topic of letting go, you never need to let go. You do. You move past all the things you thought you wanted in life. You focus and think about what you need in life. And every now and then the stars align and you get what you needed at the right time.
That’s the one thing you’re not prepared for in high school.
How to wait.